Hello beautiful souls,
I’m writing you from the bare-bones dry desert of Arizona visiting with mum.
It’s Spring here and the cactus flowers are blooming and birds are nesting between the prickly arms of the cactus. There’s a lot of open sky and distant mountain ranges. Beautiful.
I had no jet lag at all. Surprising. But last night (our 5th night here) I didn’t sleep well. I kept waking up all night and I couldn’t fathom it. The next morning I found out about the Bali execution and it made sense that I couldn’t sleep. My heart is heavy. But I’m not writing about that.
As I sit down to write this I don’t’ have a topic in mind. There’s so much going on that pulls on my heart. Nepal, Bali, plus on a personal note, it’s the anniversary of my Dad’s passing. I’m in an emotional swirl at the moment amidst the vast openness of the Arizona desert.
And then yesterday we went to see the movie Woman in Gold and I cried. I cried at the human unkindness. I cried with the family connections and expressions of love. I cried at the triumph of following one’s gut. I cried at the victory of a battle that seemed hopeless. I cried at the resilience of the human spirit.
So perhaps I’ll write about resilience this month. It’s something I always seem to come back to over and over again.
It touches me deeply and I find myself questioning, Where does this resilience come from? How do we nurture and grow our resilience? It seems important that we do. It seems necessary that we grow our capacity to be resilient in life so that we can accept and embrace change, on a personal and global level.
Resilience comes from an emotional maturity that enables us to grow out of the anxiety of reactivity into empowered co-creators of life.
Being resilient asks that we consciously connect to the spiritual in life, however that translates to each of us. It asks us to honor and really acknowledge there is a wisdom and intelligence that is guiding us and that we open to listening on a deeper level and intentionally become more receptive and intuitive.
To listen deeper requires silence and time and space for contemplation. Nurturing our spiritual connection helps align us with an abiding trust in something that is vast and loving so that even in the midst of turmoil when facing an unknown that comes with change we can connect to that inner unwavering resilience that urges us to look to the positives of change rather than the perceived negatives.
So dear ones, below are 7 tools to help us grow stronger in our resilience so we can embrace change and align with the creative flow of life.
7 TOOLS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RESILIENCE
1) SILENCE – Give yourself time and space to be silent. It can be as little as 10 minutes a day if that’s all you can manage for now. But have a consistent practice. Mornings are a good time before anything else.
2) EMBODIED – Get embodied by bringing awareness to your five senses, taste, touch, smell, sight, hearing.
3) NATURE – Go out in nature and make an intention to use your five senses to observe the boundless unfolding of creativity and change.
4) OBSERVE – Once in touch with your senses, make a new mindfulness habit of observing and questioning thoughts.
Wayne Dyer suggests, “don’t believe every thought that you have”.
Byron Katie asks, can you be absolutely sure that thought is true?
5) KINDNESS – Be kind to yourself. When you start to notice your thoughts more, you may be amazed at how derogatory your mind can be towards yourself. So take time and make a point of loving yourself. Let go of focusing on what you don’t like about yourself and replace with loving thoughts as you would towards your child or your best friend. Every day make note of what you love about yourself.
6) HELP – Ask for help when you are in a “stuck” place and filled with anxiety. I know, sometimes this is the hardest thing to do. But ask away. You can ask friends, or ask the unseen forces that are guiding you on your soul path. Ask for help, clarity, signs and then listen with alertness to what comes forth into your life. Watch for synchronicities. Pay attention without rushing for an answer.
7) ACTIONS – Take little baby actions. Little actions even if they seem unrelated to anything you’ve been focusing on will make a big difference to how you feel and will grow your resilience. Accomplishing small things feels good. Write down some baby action steps you can take today that will make you feel good.
So what helps you be more resilient to changes and the unknowns?
- Do you find change challenging?
- Would you like to strengthen your resilience?
- Are you ready to take a next step into the unknown on your soul path?
Love to you, You are love,
Amidst the prickly bits in life.. don’t forget that you are light and beauty and love.
Update on Mum:
Gosh she hasn’t changed in the last 2 years since I last visited, except that she lost weight and looks even younger at age 84. Check out her Sunday outfit! I wonder if eating food with preservatives has preserved her too. (-:
She certainly doesn’t eat organic. Not that she eats badly. Or maybe it’s that she’s “not stressed about anything”, as she puts it. Hmmm. That’s more likely. No stress and a renewed passion for life with her new “friend”. No I haven’t met him yet !
On a synchronistic note. While I was writing this, my brother sent my mum a YouTube clip of a short doco of their family who were one of three families in the military invited to visit Vice President Joe and Dr. Jill Biden’s home for lunch. My nephew was interviewed and he spoke about …. Resilience and how growing up in a military family and dealing with all the changes and new beginnings he’s had to go through has made him more resilient and positive to life’s changes.
Aaah I love the synchronicity but more than that .. the unity in diversity that is my family. We are all soooo different, but love, compassion, tolerance and acceptance make it work – at least from my end. It’s all about aligning with the love.